8/6/09

Our Family Manifesto



We promise to work together to accomplish the following:

  • to live peacefully with each-other, enjoying our day to day life together without judgment or criticism.
  • to feed our family with a variety of tasty and nutritious foods, also working toward eventually growing much of that food ourselves.
  • to take responsibility for our impact on the environment and to reduce that impact whenever possible.
  • to appreciate the life we are lucky enough to have. When we want to whine and complain about small things, we lose sight of the big picture and need to remember that many go without and are not afforded the opportunities we are.
  • to accept Silas for who he is and to relinquish control in trying to form him into someone he's not. To meet him on his own terms, as an equal, and love him just as he is, every moment of every day.
  • to spend time alone and time together following our individual and group interests and hobbies and to respect each-other's space.
  • to treat our individual wants and needs with equal priority regardless of family "title", age, income earned, or household tasks shouldered. We're in this together as a team.
  • to keep our home neat & clean, but not sterile, creating an environment full of warmth and charm.
  • to spend, save, and budget our money responsibly so that we can be free to enjoy life's surprises without stress or worry that our financial resources will run dry.




4 comments:

JJ Keith said...

It's a lovely manifesto. And I know we've commented back and forth about it before, but I feel you on the clean thing. I am a lady of extremes. I can either be ultra-anal and obsessive or just a total slop. I'm working very hard at splitting the difference.

And just as you work to relinquish control of Silas, I work to celebrate my husband for who he is and not let myself think about "training," "improving" or "changing" him. Obviously, it's quite different between a husband and a child, and I don't mean to compare my husband to a kid, but some of the principles translate.

Kelly Hogaboom said...

I love it!

We have an even simpler manifesto, it's like one sentence.

This was a lovely read.

Jasie VanGesen said...

Kelly - Since Seth & I aren't planning on exchanging any vows, traditional or otherwise, we felt it would be good to map out exactly what we want for the big picture for ourselves, eachother, and the family as a unit. I'm really glad I wrote this... I've never put it into words before and it felt really calming and freeing.

Jodie - That makes perfect sense to me, so no worries. I spent 6 years trying to train someone and ended up destroying everything I'd thought I wanted. In the end, it was a very good thing, but for a good solid marriage, you've got to check that shit at the door. I know that now. Though I also know my first marriage was never good nor solid. ;)

Katie said...

I just now saw this--it is so beautiful it actually made me misty-eyed. I never even considered doing something like this with Scott, but I am definitely inspired!

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